It doesn’t have to be lonely this Christmas…

You may be alone at Christmas for different reasons, such as the death of a loved one, living far from relatives, or because of social isolation. If you have social anxiety disorder (SAD) and don’t have close relationships with family or friends, loneliness at Christmas could be particularly hard.  

Christmas is actually the perfect day to take the time to appreciate what you do have in life, be it good health, a place to live, or food on the table. Having gratitude, even for just the small things in your life, will help you to move past the worry or dread.  As you learn to live in the present moment and be mindful of your surroundings, you will begin to see that you have plenty to be grateful for. One way to practice gratitude is to write down three things you are grateful for every day.  

Tips for Coping with Loneliness at Christmas

Rather than spending the day at home alone, why not find something that you can do that fits with your mindset and mental state for the day.   For example, if you have the energy, and the weather is decent, you might feel like going for a walk.  If you’re feeling sociable, you might want to attend a church service to be in the presence of others.  Do what feels comfortable for you, but do push yourself out your comfort zone, even just a little.  Below are some other things that may help:

• Say Yes – Perhaps you are alone this year because you turned down invitations. Call those people back and say “yes.” This is often a problem for those with social anxiety—you turn down invitations only to regret it and feel lonely afterward.  Ease yourself in gently, but saying yes occasionally will help.
• Volunteer – One way to gain a better appreciation for the good things in your life is to get involved in volunteering. Volunteering during the holidays is a way to connect with others, boost your self-esteem, and bring joy to yourself and others.
• Enjoy Solitude – If being alone at Christmas is unavoidable, plan a day for yourself. Buy something online to treat yourself, cook your favourite foods, and plan a movie marathon.
• Host an Online Christmas – Do you have online friends? Do you have long-distance relatives? Host an online Christmas by setting up a Skype chatroom or Facebook group. People can drop in and out as they please, and you don’t have to cook, clean, or even get off the sofa.
• Remember – Christmas is just one day.  If you have been suffering with deep routed and long-lasting issue, please get in touch with us at New Leaf Counselling services – we are here to help!

Start the New Year with a positive approach and book your FREE Counselling or Life Coaching taster session with New Leaf Counselling & Well-being. For more info, email admin@newleafcounsellingandwell-being.co.uk or text or call 01695 333020.  New Leaf Counselling is based in Beacon House, Willow Walk, Ashurst, Skelmersdale.